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Alice in Slaughterhouse ([personal profile] mijeli) wrote2012-11-02 11:57 pm
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friends cut

It's time for the Unpopular 'friends cut' Post. I hate the term. I'm not cutting people; I'm cutting online pseuds I no longer connect with people. I hope that much is obvious!
My flist has grown to a crazy number of 154(!) mutual friends, and as I go through the names, I'm realising I haven't interacted with certain people in forever - if ever. Much as I appreciate the sentiment of someone with similar interests putting me on their radar, I don't see the point anymore. And please be ensured that even if I defriended you, I still value your opinion and the exchange with you, e.g. in comms. Sometimes interaction in neutral environments is all we want, no?

But my journal is my notepad, and I want to feel I know every single person who might (theoretically) be reading my entries. So I'm cutting people I no longer feel close to or I feel aren't interested anyway. [Or who simply haven't given a sign of life for years..] Please don't be offended! This is, of course, also the moment for you to defriend me if you've had enough of me.

If you feel I cut you and shouldn't have, tell me now ;) But I believe that friending business is mostly a mutual sentiment anyway.


And THANK YOU [livejournal.com profile] tsuvi, [livejournal.com profile] asya_ana and [livejournal.com profile] hollys_tree for the v-gifts! ♥ I almost feel like I went to 'trick or treat' this year ...

[identity profile] valkyriekat-47.livejournal.com 2012-11-02 11:14 pm (UTC)(link)
I know I'm not about to be cut, but I'm speaking for the majority of people you cut. (not including myself) They think. "Whatever." "Who cares" "Who the heck is mijeli?" "I am sooooo wounded I actually commented once in a useless way, waaaah"

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-02 11:20 pm (UTC)(link)
No way I'm cutting you.

Haha, I know. If they even log into LJ anymore. But what do I know what wounds people? I want to make sure, because I'm polite like that. NOT SNARKY LIKE YOU
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[identity profile] jad.livejournal.com 2012-11-02 11:36 pm (UTC)(link)
I agree! I am going to also unlist you due to an overflowing flist - but no hurt feelings! I am happy to see you at least let people know why you're cutting XD Maybe we will run into each other in the future - either way, thanks for letting us know :)

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-02 11:47 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you for this nice comment! I'm glad we agree :) And I do hope we'll run into each other again .. until then, all the best!

[identity profile] subtlefire.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 12:21 am (UTC)(link)
You are very nice. I've been thinking for awhile about doing a cut, but have no desire to post a heads up this time. [livejournal.com profile] jad's comment is making me rethink that...although I still probably won't :)

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 01:10 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, I just want to be respectful :3 Though I realise that a great number of the people I cut won't even care or notice. If you think the people you are going to cut won't, then why make a post?

Anyway, YOU are the nice one! I'm surprised! ;)

[identity profile] subtlefire.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 07:12 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, that's my thinking. It's mostly people that I just don't talk to, or if I do they don't respond. That's really not what I'm here for. There are a couple of people I'm wanting to defriend because I don't want to read their posts anymore, but I'm also afraid I'll hurt their feelings. I don't know what to do about that.

[identity profile] teprometo.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 01:05 am (UTC)(link)
Friends cuts feel just like tidying up the house. Suddenly you can find all the things you care about again.

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 01:08 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, well put. It makes sense to be able to focus on what matters most again.

(*grin* I like how consequentially you're using that icon in my journal now!)

[identity profile] teprometo.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 08:30 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, when you asked so nicely. :-D Besides, I like having an excuse to use it. Because it is Pretty.

[identity profile] teapostal.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 04:02 am (UTC)(link)
*checks* Yay!

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 01:07 pm (UTC)(link)
As if I would cut you! :D

[identity profile] clappamungus.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 05:58 am (UTC)(link)
I'm glad I wasn't cut. I know I don't comment all that often, but I do read your posts. I'll try to make more of an effort!

Actually, I should make more of an effort to actually use LJ in the first place. I used to use this journal a lot, but I don't seem to anymore...

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 01:06 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't just cut people who don't comment - I don't expect everyone to be around all the time! (I know I'm not, either.) But I get the occasional glimpse into your life and still have a name and face to go with the pseud. (Hey, I even sent you a postcard once! :D) So I'd love for you to stick around.

Yeah, don't we all go through these on/off phases? I think it's a lot about habit..

[identity profile] zengmar.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 10:53 am (UTC)(link)
don't leave meeee

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-03 01:03 pm (UTC)(link)
Absolutely not!!

[identity profile] dionysus-petals.livejournal.com 2012-11-04 02:36 am (UTC)(link)
*poke* Hey hey! I read, lady!

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-06 12:05 am (UTC)(link)
*poke poke* Hey there! And good to see you! :)

[identity profile] nenne.livejournal.com 2012-11-04 09:42 pm (UTC)(link)
I am not going anywhere. *clings and stomps foot simultaneously*

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-06 12:15 am (UTC)(link)
*tackleglomps the Nenne* Absolutely not! :D

[identity profile] bohemiabythesea.livejournal.com 2012-11-05 08:50 pm (UTC)(link)
*checks due to insane anxiety*
*demands more chatwatching*

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-06 12:06 am (UTC)(link)
You're kidding, right? SURELY YOU MUST BE KIDDING. As if I'd let you go anywhere!

[identity profile] bohemiabythesea.livejournal.com 2012-11-06 07:59 am (UTC)(link)
I was very sure you wouldn't, but friends-cuts are one of those lj-customs that I can't quite wrap my head around, so I just did I tiny check to reassure myself...

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-06 10:09 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, I CAN wrap my head around it, because you make friends easily online (or sometimes you do) and then you find out that after a while there's not quite as much to share. Well I find I have a bit to share with you! :) <3

[identity profile] bohemiabythesea.livejournal.com 2012-11-08 03:03 pm (UTC)(link)
True. It's probably also that it took me a long time to understand the concept of making friends online.

Ha, yeah, me too, quite a bit!

[identity profile] thy-delight.livejournal.com 2012-11-08 06:39 am (UTC)(link)
oh, I'm thinking about doing the same...or better yet to start over at my english lj...cause in this one it seem I have so little friends left...I read my f-list and understan that I don't care about most of those people %) how the hell did I even end up befriended with them?)))

well, you inspired me) I'll go do some friends cut of my own ^^

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-18 12:46 pm (UTC)(link)
Hah yeah, I know what you mean. Well I'm glad you were inspired to do your own friends cut, I hope it relieved your flist :)

Also, I still try to read your Russian posts, sometimes I make my way through them slowly and see how much I can understand ^_~

[identity profile] thy-delight.livejournal.com 2012-11-18 12:51 pm (UTC)(link)
wow, really?))) that's so great))) if you ever need any help with translation - just say a word =)

[identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com 2012-11-18 01:05 pm (UTC)(link)
My Russian is extremely rusty (not that it ever was that good), so I'd need A LOT of help! :P But thank you, if I have any specific questions, I'll ask <3